Over the past two years, I have left my corporate job in order to spend more time with my kids and reduce the daycare drop offs and dinners on the go while racing from one location to the next. I wouldn't classify myself as a stay at home mom as I do work part time however this includes caring for other peoples children. Having flexibility to "work" down the street from my home while still being able to care for my children and be there for them when they need has been a blessing. Although our children are all school age, there are still times when having a parent available makes life that much easier. Both my husbands ex and my ex work shift work and various on-call shifts making it rather difficult for a normal schedule. This in turn makes me the go to person for all child care needs such as sick days, appointments, in-service days, summer break etc. Don't get me wrong, I feel very fortunate that we have this option however I have become somewhat sensitive with certain stay at home mom comments. For those who don't spend the day catering to others schedules, house and child care demands, this can be a little frustrating.
Here are some things you shouldn't say to a stay at home mom...
1. "So what did you do when you used to work?" ...ummm used to work? Anyone who is a mom knows that being a stay at home mom is not a "walk in the park." You still work extensive hours cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, chauffeuring kids, paying bills, attending school functions and appointments, etc. The list goes on and never stops!
2. "I don't know why you didn't get it done, you had all day." ....seriously?! Yes, because I have all the time in the world.
3. "You don't work, so you don't understand." ....yes because I am a dumb idiot who can't even tie my own shoes so how could I possibly understand. WTF!
4. "I could never be at home with my child all the time, so good for you for being able to do that." ...no response to this one.
5. "Being a stay at home mom must be so nice (in other words "easy".) ....sure, if you love spending time with your children even through all the chaos and frustrations, then yes.