She knows I can talk about anything and any topic, mostly. That's why she asked me to write something. I have options, ideas, views and expectations. A lot of the time they are the same as Jackie, that's why we get along so well. We share a lot of the same values and dreams and raise our kids to have respect for them selves and others. However, we realize that sometimes we don't always see eye to eye. This is where a lot of tension between us happens. So we discuss how the best way to do things. Both have to come to an agreement and there is give and take. And there has to be acceptance of the decision on both sides. Resentment is a emotion that destroys relationships, so don't agree because you don't want to argue or feel you have to give in because you want to win the next argument. This is for your kids and put your personal emotions aside and think of the best internists of the kids. We do this away from the children and we are constantly re-evaluating how we are raising our kids. Then come to the kids as a team with one way of doing things, this gives less confusion. And your kids will appreciate it more.